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A quick recap (so we’re all on the same page) In Part 1 , we named people-pleasing for what it actually is — not kindness, but a learned survival response. A way of staying safe, acceptable, and included by editing ourselves in real time. In Part 2 , we looked at how that pattern sticks around long after it’s needed — shaping how we speak, decide, and relate, often without us even noticing we’re doing it. Which brings us neatly to Part 3 … Where people-pleasing shows up in it

Transition from Part 1: So last time, we talked about how people-pleasing creeps in — conditioning, survival mode, wanting to keep the peace, and that age-old “be a good girl/boy” programming that half our generation swallowed with our Weet-Bix. Now we’re shifting gears. Part 2 is where we stop being polite about it and actually look at what people-pleasing does to us. Spoiler: it’s not cute. The Internal Battle – You vs. You (and You’re Losing) Every time you say “yes” whil

Okay, here’s a big one to dive into. Get comfy. Take a few minutes to read this properly and really absorb what it’s about — because if this doesn’t hit you in your own habits, you’ll definitely recognise it in someone close to you. So grab a cuppa. Put your phone on silent. And let’s get into this. I can’t remember the exact moment it started. No dramatic incident, no Hollywood flashback… just a quiet drip-feed of belief that being “good” was safer than being honest. I grew

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