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People-Pleasing (Part 3): Aunty Vera, Coronation Street & the Art of Keeping the Peace
A quick recap (so we’re all on the same page) In Part 1 , we named people-pleasing for what it actually is — not kindness, but a learned survival response. A way of staying safe, acceptable, and included by editing ourselves in real time. In Part 2 , we looked at how that pattern sticks around long after it’s needed — shaping how we speak, decide, and relate, often without us even noticing we’re doing it. Which brings us neatly to Part 3 … Where people-pleasing shows up in it
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#2 Why so many of us become people pleasers - The real cost of always saying yes.
Transition from Part 1: So last time, we talked about how people-pleasing creeps in — conditioning, survival mode, wanting to keep the peace, and that age-old “be a good girl/boy” programming that half our generation swallowed with our Weet-Bix. Now we’re shifting gears. Part 2 is where we stop being polite about it and actually look at what people-pleasing does to us. Spoiler: it’s not cute. The Internal Battle – You vs. You (and You’re Losing) Every time you say “yes” whil
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Part One: The Roots — Why So Many of Us Become People-Pleasers
Okay, here’s a big one to dive into. Get comfy. Take a few minutes to read this properly and really absorb what it’s about — because if this doesn’t hit you in your own habits, you’ll definitely recognise it in someone close to you. So grab a cuppa. Put your phone on silent. And let’s get into this. I can’t remember the exact moment it started. No dramatic incident, no Hollywood flashback… just a quiet drip-feed of belief that being “good” was safer than being honest. I grew
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Loneliness: The Silent Killer That Wears Ugg Boots and Hides in Your Houseplants
Let’s just get this out of the way: loneliness is now considered a bigger threat to our health than smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Yes,...
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When the Sky Breaks: Stillness, Surrender, and the Flat Tyre That Spoke Louder Than Words
By Heidi Mills – The Wellbeing Compass 🌩️ Some weeks crack you open... and some completely empty you. This week, I got both. The sky...
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Breaking Through the Noise: Finding Your Purpose in a Distracted World
Have you noticed how life’s distractions are relentless. Those 'bings' of notifications on the ever-present phone. The constant pressure...
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Unplug to Recharge: The Healing Power of Nature (and Why Your Phone Can Wait)
Let’s be real—most of us are addicted to our screens. We check our phones like it’s a reflex, scroll mindlessly, and somehow end up...
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Imposter Syndrome: When Your Brain is a Troll and How to Shut It Up
Imposter Syndrome: Who Let Me in Here?! Ever walked into a room and thought, Who approved this? —except the room is your own life, and...
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The Buzz About Bees: Nature’s Tiny Wellbeing Warriors
You might be curious about the presence of bees in my logo and their role in my coaching and consultancy. They serve as a source of...
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Wellbeing, what does it look like.
For the Wellbeing Compass, we explore six key themes that we know can make a huge difference to how you feel about yourself and life.
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